AI romance scams and how to protect the people you love
Loneliness is something millions of people know well, and scammers know it too. Romance scams are one of the costliest fraud types tracked by the FBI, with people over 60 reporting some of the highest per-victim losses. Today, AI-powered chatbots and deepfake video technology are being used to build fake relationships that can seem genuine over weeks or months. Understanding how these tactics work is one of the most meaningful things a family can do together.
What you can do to stay safe
Romance scams are much easier to spot once you know what the tactics look like. A few shared habits across your family can make a real difference.
Make it easy to talk about new online connections Let older family members know it's safe and welcome to share about people they've met online, without judgment Ask light, natural questions about new contacts and whether they've appeared on a video call with family around Keep check-ins ongoing and low-pressure; they build more safety than any single warning conversation Know the warning signs of a fake connection Watch for a contact who seems emotionally available at all hours without exception; real relationships don't usually follow that pattern Pay attention if they resist being included in a video call or meeting family; that reluctance is a red flag Stay on the original platform until there's confidence about who the other person really is, especially if they push for WhatsApp or Telegram early When affection or commitment comes up very early, take time and let the relationship develop at a pace that feels natural Pause before any money moves If pressure to send money comes up, pause and talk it through with a trusted family member before doing anything Avoid gift cards, wire transfers, or cryptocurrency for any payment requested by someone not met in person, as these are nearly impossible to recover Give at least 24 hours before acting on any financial request that seems urgent or emotionally charged Use trusted tools to catch scams early Forward suspicious messages, links, or profile images to a scam-checking tool before responding or clicking anything Use an app that monitors messages across SMS and chat platforms and alerts when a scam pattern is detected Use a family safety tool like TrendLife to keep the whole household aware of new scam tactics Report it when you encounter one Contact your bank right away if any payment details were shared Report the scam to help stop the same tactic being used on someone else Share your experience with other family members so they can recognize the same pattern next time scam